All those habits and behaviors I said I would never replicate as an adult. Yep, they’re all here. And they seem to appear when I’m least expecting them – they just happen, naturally. This was not in the life plan of superkimbo, all grown up. Unfortunately, it seems the only thing I didn’t get from my mother is her perfect figure…
So, here they are, the good and the bad:
- My mom has the most annoying habit of approximating time. For example, at 6:38, she’ll say “hurry up Kim, it’s already 7:00!” Arg. I can not tell you how much that frustrates me to this day. But, guess who just started doing it this year? My friend Darby totally caught me out the other day when I said that 9:30 was already the end of our first block (which actually ends at 9:50). Yikes.
- My mom has a bit of the “tough love” attitude and has seriously high expectations (which is exactly how her father was). I do think this helped me be self-motivated, but I sometimes find myself acting that way and I don’t like it.
- My mom is a real homebody. She could spend days at home just puttering around the house. As you know, I am equally likely to sit at home for an entire weekend. But, in contrast to my mom, I do live overseas and she has never lived more than 45 minutes away from where she grew up…
- My mom hoards foods and household supplies. Let’s just say that we still have stockpiles from our Y2K stash. And, guess who actually shipped non-perishable foods from Germany to Malaysia the last time she moved? I’m really really trying to get over this – I’m eating as fast as I can in preparation for our move to Bangkok.
- My mom is a know-it-all, even when she doesn’t know. Enough said.
- My mom is always a professional. Although she only attended a two-year college, she has a patent (and she’s not even a researcher), she headed up major divisions at IBM, ran the Euro conversion project back in 2000, and she pioneered the maternity leave policy for all mothers at IBM when I was born in 1977. I was born without enough platlets in my blood, so my mom had to stay at the hospital with me for a few weeks, and then she wanted to stay home with me until I was ok. The company wanted to let her go, but she wrote an amazing letter to the CEO and ended up getting 6 months paid leave and totally changing the maternity practices for the whole company. Rock on Mom!
- My mom is an advocate for what she believes in. In my home state of CT, hunting is legal in certain conditions. One day a neighbor was shooting deer in his yard (we all have 2 acres of property, I think that’s the legal limit or something) with a bow and arrow. The baby deer that he shot wandered into our yard and died in my mom’s arms. She spent the next sixth months petitioning to get hunting banned in our town and won.
- My mom loves home remedies. Alex makes fun of both of us for that, but I like them too. Gargle with salt water when you have a sore throat, keep your neck warm when you’re sick, drink ginger ale when your stomach is upset, and so on. He claims that his mother never offered home remedies. We’ll see about that this summer.
- My mom is honest. She tells everyone exactly what she thinks. Most of the time I like this about her and about myself, but sometimes it’s too much. We all know the phrase “brutal honesty” – that’s us, all the time…
In what ways are you like your mother?